This week was difficult with my 3 /12-yr old son. More than just misbehaving, he was borderline malicious, seemingly looking for ways to antagonize our dog or his sister or to defy me. None of my efforts – talking about the incidents, praying with him, consistent discipline – appeared to be making any difference.
Finally, at the end of the week and after praying it through, I decided to try making some changes from my end. I spent a day focusing on him, talking casually with him as much as possible, including him in everything I did, making time to play with him however he wanted. And it worked – it seemed to break the logjam and alter the dynamics of his behavior and our negative weeklong dance. My concentrated attention, affirmation, and love had reached him in a way nothing else had. (more…)